Jerk-Free Subversion

How to be subversive without being a jerk- or something worse...

Is It Possible to Be Subversive Without Being a Jerk?

There are some things I want to subvert.

Undermine. Overthrow. Replace.

But I can’t tell you what those things are as it will make my subversion more difficult.

However, I can tell you that I’ve been wrestling with the question of how to be subversive without being a jerk.

How to attack somethings without attacking someones.
How to destroy constructs without damaging people.

Here are some principles I’ve landed on, and will attempt to follow:

  • Propose solutions; don’t merely identify problems.
  • Don’t assume you know the motives of those you disagree with.
  • Realize you aren’t smarter than those who believe differently than you.
  • Accept that you aren’t morally superior to those who believe differently than you.
  • Affirm what you can affirm, even within a context you mostly disagree with.
  • Decide that a difference of opinion will not displace your love for that person or group.
  • Understand those who disagree with you so clearly that they agree with the way you state their case.
  • Be prepared to change your mind.
  • Be kind.

Other suggestions?

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